Stop Feeling Like A FRAUD: The Superman Secret To Authentic Confidence  Self-doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever has. A lot of people think they have a mission in life, but it's really just their ego. They acknowledge the feeling, but they didn't let that impact the action. You being here, I know this, this is kind of counter to a lot of our, um, modern day society that, that we live in, but you being here is not. For your enjoyment and fulfillment. What if you could build a business in the modern world as big or as small as you want without having to compromise the things that were the most important to you in the very beginning? This is the Wealthy Consultant Talks podcast with Taylor Welch and Mike Walker. They share with you today their learning lessons from stories in their experiences over the past 10 to 15 years, and share with you right here, right now. Let's get into it. What is going on? My friends Mike Walker here, excited to have you join me on another episode of The Wealthy Consultant Podcast. Uh, we're gonna be diving into a topic that I know for a fact that you have struggled with in your life. How can I say that So confidently. Because you are human. Yes, my friends, you are human. And that means that you have dealt with what the topic of today is, which is imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome does not, uh, no one escapes imposter syndrome. And, um, the, the, the whole concept of today's episode is to not only define what it is, but how do we embrace its impact and its force in our lives. Because you're not gonna escape it. It is gonna be something that you are absolutely going to face in your life. In fact. The more you strive, the more successful you become. The more you will face it isn't that ironic that as you become more successful, as you get up the ladder in terms of your, uh, skills and and accomplishments in life and in business, you'll actually face the force of imposter syndrome more. Why is that? Because we don't escape it. It is something that is a constant, uh, defining force. It's a defining element of the human experience, but that doesn't mean that it has to. Impact our efficacy and what we do. But it does mean that we have to be able to navigate through it and understand what it is, is the first step in doing that. And so, um, I'm gonna be, uh, pulling back the curtain on a training that I did for our clients a while back on this exact topic. It hit home in a big way. It's probably, probably one of the more impactful, um. Trains I have done with clients so much so that I got a lot of feedback, a lot of positive notes and, and thank yous and things in the back of that, that came later just because of, you know, it touched people where they were. And why is that? Because they're human, just like I said, and they're, they are human, just like you're human. And I wanted to share this insights with you and give you a taste of, you know, working with us here at the Wealthy Consultant for one, but also because I want you to, uh, benefit from the insights that we, um, uncovered during this episode. So. Um, jump into this one. I know you're gonna like it. And I even share a story, an embarrassing story of that, um, about, of me growing up that I wanna share with you today. And so, uh, I'm wearing, if you're watching me on video, you will see that I am sporting a Superman. I. Shirt. Uh, if you're only listening to me, well then you don't get to see it. But I'm rocking a Superman shirt and, uh, you'll know why and the reference to that as you dive into this episode. So enjoy. I know you'll get a lot outta this one and share this one my friends, because there are people in your lives that really, really need to hear this. I hope you need to hear it. I'm willing to bet that you have people in your network in your life that could use this even more. So sharing is caring, my friends. Give this one a like subscribe, do all the things, but more importantly, get this into the hands of somebody that it could truly change their lives and impact them in a positive way. Okay. Alright guys, let's jump in. I'm gonna get the editor to cut us in to the episode and the training that I did with our clients. Enjoy. God bless and we'll see you on another episode of. The Wealthy Consultant Podcast. Enjoy topic for today, unmasking authenticity, navigating self-doubt, and imposter syndrome. All right. It's gonna be kind of like a three-part thing here. Part one, we're just gonna, uh, define and identify because you can't slay a dragon you can't see, right? We have to know what is it that we're facing specifically so we can address it. Clearly in our lives. Part two is moving from understanding to empowering. Once we understand it, we know what it is, that's great, but then how do we actually use that effectively and use it as a full, uh, fuel rather instead of something that's going to distinguish, um, you know, or rather like extinguish, I should say, our, our abilities in the marketplace, in our lives in general, et cetera, et cetera. And then part three, living into your unique purpose, getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Um, I would say. I'd venture to guess that most people here have probably heard that type of phrase, you know, oh, you gotta get comfortable with being uncomfortable, but we're actually gonna talk about what that specifically looks like and feels like. So that's how we're gonna end. In fact, I'm even gonna share an embarrassing story from my past. Um, Luke, I didn't, I didn't tell you this. I know, but I, I'm, I'm gonna share a little, so something from my past, um, growing up, and, uh, it is what it is. I'm, I'm, I have, uh. I, I don't care. I'm gonna share it anyway. It's gonna be kind of funny. You guys can laugh at my own expense. All right, let's get into it. Let's get into it. All right, part one, uh, define and identify. You can't slay drag, uh, dragon. You can't see. So let's just define imposter syndrome. We already know what self-doubt is. Everybody's like gonna be pretty clear. Yeah, I, I get that one. That's pretty straightforward. But imposter syndrome specifically, right, is the condition of feeling anxious and not experiencing success internally. Internally, usually despite being high performance in, in external and objective ways. So you're, you're performing at a high level externally, um, and in objective ways. You have measurable things to suggest the fact that you are, you know, successful or striving forward, moving forward, et cetera. But internally, you do not feel this way and this condition off often results in people feeling a, like a fraud, a phony, uh, downing their abilities. Um, and there's some signals here I wrote down. I, I want us to just make sure that we're all, you know, kind of. Singing the same tune here together. Um, and let me know if any of these resonate, uh, with you guys. All right, so signals that you know, okay, this is probably somewhere in that field of imposter syndrome. It's not to say that they're bad per se, but you just need to be aware of 'em. Self-doubt. We already talked about that. Constantly question your abilities, skills or knowledge, even in the areas where you have proven expertise. Pretty straightforward. Overachievement or perfectionism. Interesting. Alright. I can definitely, uh, put a checkbox next to that one. Uh, setting excessive high standards for yourself and feeling a constant need to excel or achieve perfection despite accomplishments. Feeling like it's never enough, and that's the big one. It's okay to strive for more and, and, you know, try to do your best. That's, that's pretty straightforward. But when you feel like it's never enough and you can never celebrate the wins along the way. Why? That's the big question. I want you to underscore that one. Why? Why can't I? Right? Because it's not just about, well, 'cause there's more to do. Sure there is. But why can't you celebrate where you're at right now? Fear of failure, an intense fear of making mistakes, being exposed as incompetent, or being found out, quote unquote, as not deserving your position or achievements. This is a big one, especially when you start moving up in the ranks in either a corporate sector or you're up on stage and you're talking to people and you just feel like. Man, I wonder if people actually know what I feel like right now. Right. Uh, it's, it's, uh, it's a big one for sure. Fear of failure. Next one. Discounting achievements. We already kind of touched on this, but downplaying or dismissing personal achievements, attributing them to external factors like luck or timing rather than acknowledging your own capabilities. Right. So, you know, oh, well, that, I just got lucky on that one. You know, and just kind of discounting everything is like, I didn't have anything to do with that. Well, you're living and you're breathing and it happened to you, so you must have something to do with it. Right? Comparing yourself to others, this is a big one, especially for those of you who spend a lot of time online, scrolling the news feeds, looking at everybody's photos and images and and whatnot. This can be extremely, um, impactful in the way that you set your paradigm. Comparing yourself to others frequently, comparing yourself to others, and feeling inferior or inadequate in comparison, even when evidence suggests otherwise. Another component is just simply forgetting that they're in a different chapter with a different, a completely different set of, uh, you know, variables, right? So looking at things as like apples for apples or, or oranges to oranges. And yet the reality is you guys grew up in completely different continents. The, the comparison is not direct, even when it kind of seems like it. Difficulty accepting praise. You'll see this a lot and I always like to, you know, you can take it as kind of being, oh, there's being humble, but if you scratch the surface a little bit, you start kind of questioning, well, why are they like that? How come they can't accept praise? Right? Difficulty accepting praise, feeling uncomfortable, or deflecting praise. Believing that any positive feedback or recognition received is not genuine. So there's two parts here. There's deflecting it like, oh, thank you. No, no, that's fine. And just kinda like, no, it's not a big deal. Right? Well, where'd that come from? How come you can't just be like, yes, thank you. I know I worked really hard for that one. And just accept it, own it. Right? And then the other part of this is questioning whether the feedback is even genuine. That's kind of an interesting one too, is like, well, why'd they say that? What, what, what do they really mean? Or they're just trying to like, you know, make me feel good, but they don't actually mean it. Right. These are all the things looping in your head, Luke. Have you ever kind of felt that way? Where like someone gives you a compliment and you're just like, oh, they don't really mean that. They're just like trying to build me up. Like, where did that storyline come from? And no one else is saying it. It's you saying it to you. That's the weird part. That's where we get, uh, going down this rabbit hole. It's pretty interesting stuff. Um, overworking or over preparing. I. Guilty. Guilty. Guilty for sure. Putting excessive effort into task for projects. Constantly striving to prove yourself and fearing that others will discover your perceived shortcomings. Now again, putting in a lot of effort, trying hard, wanting to do your best. Is that wrong? Absolutely not. I. But the underlying why, right? You could almost put like a big why under every single one of these. And I would suggest that we will recap and I'll, I'll make sure that you hit all these, and then just later today, or while you're driving or running or doing your thing, whatever, just simply hit each of these and go, okay, I've felt that before. Excellent. Why? Just identify it. You can't slay dragging. You can't see if you can see it. Then you go, ah, okay, now I know why. And then going forward, you won't deal with it so much. High anxiety or stress experiencing persistent anxiety, stress, or a constant feeling of being overwhelmed due to the fear of being exposed as a fraud. Okay, and then last two here, feeling like an outsider, believing that you don't belong in your professional or social circles feeling like you and are an imposter in certain environments, and the others will discover that you don't fit in. I know I've been in situations where I'm looking around the room going like, wow, these people have, uh, definitely one up me in most air categories of life, whether it be finance, success, their ability to articulate these really complex thoughts. Right? Hey, you know what? Here's one to like flip for, you know, flip your paradigm on this one is like, you wanna be that person in that room. You wanna assimilate a success through assimilation. And, and so you wanna be in those rooms where you feel like, wow, yeah, this is uncomfortable. Remember what we talked about? Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable? And then lastly, minimizing accomplishments. We kind of touched on this already, minimizing your achievements, attributing them to luck, easy circumstance or believing that anyone could have accomplished what you did. And that's a big one. Like you have this, this is something to really question, uh, inside yourself is, oh, well anyone could have done that. Um, no. That's not true. You did that. You were able to do it. Not everybody could. All right, so self-doubt, overachievement or perfectionism, fear of failure, discounting achievements, comparing yourself to others. Difficulty accepting praise, overworking, or over preparing high anxiety or stress. Feeling like an outsider and minimizing accomplishments are all signals of. Navigating the self-doubt and imposter syndrome situation right now. Again, these are all things that we all have. I would, I mean, I'm gonna put my hand up. I've for sure touched on every single one of these at some point in my life for sure. That's just part, you know, par for course. It's what we do. Alright, so now that we know what it is, let's go from understanding to empowering, right? So part two, moving from understanding to empowering. Why this is important. Here's my personal belief. There's lots of different reasons why this would be important, obviously, but this is the first one that came to mind as I was writing, uh, notes here for this call. Because self-doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever has. Self-doubt has killed more dreams than failure ever has. Imagine how many amazing songs, plays, stories, and inventions there would be in this world today if people hadn't doubted their abilities. You could very comfortably say that humanity as a whole would be a richer and wiser and more advanced. Had all the people in the past push through this emotion. Imagine how much better off we would be if all these unknown people, all these unknown scenarios, and people said, I feel this way, but I'm gonna do this instead. Separating emotion from motion. Right, and just going, yes, I feel like that, but I'm gonna make, I'm gonna act like that they're, they're two totally different things, and that's something I really want you guys to embrace is the reality that it's okay to feel a certain way, but that doesn't mean you have to do a certain way. You can actually do the polar opposite of what you feel and imagine where we would be in human history if that had been held true for eons, decades, tens of thousands of years. I don't know. Maybe it would be already on Mars. Probably, I don't know. Probably. All right. Don't confuse wishes with dreams. This is another one, though. A lot of people, oh, I wish this. I wish that, oh, they'll be so nice. You cannot confuse wishes with dreams. They're not the same thing. All right? Dreams are deeply embedded, visually empowered thoughts that vibrate differently, usually very consistent and re regard regardless of external pressure or circumstances. They're woven into your DNA and they are signals pointing towards your calling. So dreams. When we say dreams, that's a very overly term I understand. So I kind of want to put a little more emphasis. I wanna put some more context onto when we're talking about dreams here. In terms of alignment with your purpose and not feeling like you're an imposter or just trying to be someone else that you just saw on Instagram because it looked good, your personal dreams are deeply embedded, visually empowered thoughts that vibrate differently, and they're usually very consistent regardless of what's going on in your life. All right? Wishes and desires are like fleeting flashes in the pan, and they usually are brought up by external influences, and that doesn't necessarily mean they're bad. They just usually aren't as tightly bound to our personal identity and tend to lack the same power. And that's why it's really, you know, when you're trying to come up with your purpose and, and escape from, and navigate through self-doubt and imposter syndrome, you're like, well, how do I do that? By understanding your purpose, right, and knowing why you're here, why are you uniquely, um, skilled in certain ways and your, your entire life ex, you know, uh, existence up to this point? Your entire experience up to this point has brought you to where you are today. And that makes you extremely valuable resource in this world. But you have to understand and embrace that, and then let that align with your purpose. Right? And that's kind of the direction we're gonna go here. Now, I will say, most people will be like, yeah, yeah, yeah. I, I want to have a purpose. That's my mission. I wanna make, you know, make a big impact in this world. Definitely. You know, been there, done that, seen a lot of that, right? But here's the thing, a lot of people think they have a mission in life, but it's really just their ego. Lemme say that one more time. A lot of people think they have a mission in life, but it's really just their ego because it's not easy to tell the difference sometimes if you aren't aware of the concept. And the best way to know for sure is to look below the intention and figure out whether the mission and objectives surrounding it are more important than the means in how they're completed. This is a big one, guys. Do you have a mission or you just have an ego-driven idea of purpose? All right. The way to know is the intent to figure out, well, is the mission the end result? Do I care if I'm the one that gets it done, or am I more focused on the actual mission that that gets done? See, some people want the fame and accolades that come with accomplishing something, and then you have to undercover. Why was it to accomplish that thing, or was it to get the fame and recognition for doing that thing? Very different drivers. Very, very different drivers. Always be conscious about whether your pursuits are mission-driven or ego-driven. They can feel similar, but the underlying intent will produce dramatically different outcomes, and this is why you see some people that strive and strive and strive and then finally do something, and they're just so happy that they got it done. Because the thing got done, they, they could care less about being famous. They just wanted the thing done right. They, they believed they had a mission. Others strive and strive and strive. It gets done and it's all like, yes. See what, look what I did. Here's my Lambo to prove it. Here's the plaque on my back, you know, behind me showing that I'm famous, whatever. Right? So you just have to be really conscious of the distinction between the, the mission and the ego. I. And here's the thing, sometimes God will bring people in circumstances into your life that are designed to help reach the end objectives, but not in the way you expected or in ways that mean you might not even get the credit for it. Bam. That's a big one. Absolutely. Luke, comment on that, man. Well, I think you just kind of hit the nail on the head with this point, like, I think for all of us who are highly motivated, impact driven entrepreneurs and leaders, this is, uh. A telltale sign on if our mission is in line with our purpose and our calling with who we are designed to be. If our mission can be accomplished by us and only our way, it's probably not big enough. Like our mission should be so big that yeah, we're gonna need a bunch of other people. To accomplish this, who are working even in independently of us. You know, it's like, hey, we, we wanna eradicate illiteracy. That's something that's been kind of on my heart. So it's like, Hey, someone else does something and starts eradicating illiteracy without me, and I have no, no say in it at all. No impact on it, but it's accomplishing the mission. I'm like, heck yes. Like that should be the telltale sign. Like, Hey, this is a mission worthy of my calling and purpose. It should be so big that I can't do it myself, and if other people are doing it, I should be cheering them on. So I would just say like, Hey, take that, take that down and think that through. Like take that to heart. Is my mission worthy of my calling in this way, that it's that big that I'm cheering other people having success in this as well? I. So I just love that that hit me so hard. I wanted to share that. Thank you. Yeah, absolutely, man. No, for sure. Yeah, it's, um, you know, the big things take a team for sure. You know, you can, you can do some pretty awesome things on your own, but when you can align your, your passion, your purpose, your, your objectives in life and business, um, to the benefit of others, as you've heard it said, you know, um, service to many leads, to greatness. And, um, usually to achieve that greatness requires more than one person too along the way. Awesome. So let's, um, dive into the last piece of part two here. Um, moving from understanding to empowering, right? So we, we understand it now, now we're kind of going into empowerment mode, like, okay, now I can actually like, articulate this and put it into my life. Here's the thing to really, um, help set the stage for empowerment, and that is to understand that self-doubt is a right of, of passage, not a curse. Self-doubt is a rite of passage, not a curse, except that this is the tax that must be paid. On the way to living out your calling you, it is just gonna be like, people say, oh, you know, I'm gonna get rid of self-doubt one day. I won't ever have self-doubt. Mm. You probably always will on some levels to varying degrees. Right. And we're gonna talk about ways in part three here, how to actually make that kind of go away. But right now we just need to embrace it and go from, you know, being disempowered by it to empowered by the knowledge of the, the fact that nah, this is just part of the way, this is just what you gotta do. I. I mean, prominent figures. I, I made a little list here. Uh, Maya Angel, Tom Hanks, Serena Williams, Michelle Obama, et cetera, et cetera. Many, many, many others have spoken, uh, specifically and openly about their encounters with self-doubt and feeling like imposters right at the peak of their careers. Can you imagine Maya Angel or Tom Hanks, or Michelle Obama or Serena Williams at the peak of their careers going like, I feel like an impost. Yet. They're still doing what? They're still on the stage. They're still speaking. They're still making moves. They're still changing lives. How is that possible? Because they separated the feeling to the action. They acknowledged the feeling, but they didn't let that impact the action. Separate the two. Be okay with the feeling. Okay. That's how I feel. Great. Good for you. We all feel, but let's do right. All right. A large majority of actors and entertainers battle against this regularly because much of their fame is associated with characters that they create for the screen and stage. This is a big one. If you, if you have any friends that are actors or, or, you know, comedians or people that spend time on stage or, or, uh, screen. It's a big one. Um, I, I've met several over the years and it's really, really interesting. Uh, and they, that's why they seek out fame to inoculate themselves against self-doubt. I. So it's kinda like if I have fame that's telling me it's like this constant, uh, you know, I don't know, like a force field for their ego, I suppose. That's like, Hey, look, no, see I'm famous. I'm good. It's validating the feelings that they're lacking and that's why fame is such a, is, uh, such a powerful drug. And this, this, uh, emotion doesn't always just go away, but by recognizing it for what it is, it will allow you to push through it easier like a muscle. The more you do so the stronger you become. All right, so again, I just really want to emphasize the fact that you, it's okay to feel this way. You will experience it, accept it, go, oh, yep, Mike said that's the tax. I'm gonna feel this way. Sometimes getting up on stage for the first time, or you're onboarding some new clients or whatever. You're about to launch a new business and you just don't feel like you are the person. That doesn't mean that you can't act as though you are right. Eventually the action will catch up and the feeling will catch up, and all of a sudden you actually start feeling in pretty, in alignment. All right, so let's move into, um, part three here, um, pushing past the motion and just take action. You are designed for greatness, but don't be confused. Greatness is an action, not a feeling. You won't always feel strong, capable, or worthy, but that doesn't mean you can't act upon your calling. All right? That is true Greatness. True Greatness is feeling one way, but then doing the action the other way. That's being great. All right. Cool. Cool, cool. Alright, now part three, living into your purpose, getting comfortable with being uncomfortable. Now I questioned whether I was gonna share this, but, you know, whatever, like, it's just a funny little story, but it kind of gets into the, into the whole realm here of, of being uncomfortable with being uncomfortable. All right. So, when I was a little kid, um, I, I'm 44 now, and so this is a, this is a minute ago. Okay? So I was about four. I think I was about four years old and I was, I don't know about you, Luke, but like, to me, back in the day, man, Superman, that was it. That was like, Superman is the man, right? And nothing could stop him. He could fly. He had superpowers. Uh, the, the suit, the cape, the whole thing to, to the point with the, I actually had a Superman outfit, all right? And it was really cool. It was like, it had the blue full, you know, the pants, the, the, the shirt, uh, big, uh. Uh, uh, s on the chest, you know, and it had these little Velcro tabs on the shoulders and it came with this red cape and I could like put the, the cape on, right, and then like Velcro it on and I was like just running around the house and doing my thing, whatever. Right? I. Feeling very, very super of myself, um, feeling like I could take on the world, right? Well, wa when you watch, uh, Superman long enough, you start realizing like, well, no, he can't always be Superman. He has to like pretend he's, he's Clark Kent, right? So I proceeded one day to get ready for school, preschool, uh, by putting on my Superman outfit, but then putting on the clothes that my mom had laid out for me the night before on top of the outfit. So, as you can imagine, I have my, my, uh, Superman outfit on, and I'm like cramming myself into my corduroy pants and, and my, uh, my, uh, plaid long sleeve shirt. All right, button all the way up to the top to hide, you know, my superpowers below, right? Cape, the whole thing. All right, when you're four, this is a, this is an ordeal. It, it took me a little longer to get ready for school that morning. I'll tell you that. All right. Now here's the irony. Um, it was summer. When you're four, you don't think about these things, right? All you cared about is being Superman, but I wanted to be. Comfortable with being uncomfortable. So I did any anyway, right? And this was, this was my calling. I was Superman. I was there to save the day and I was running around school and in the yard and just doing my thing and, and all day I was, I was feeling pretty proud of myself. I distinctly remember sitting there. I could clear as day, feel this and see this still. We're sitting on the floor all together in front of the teacher. She's reading stories. And I just remember looking around the room going like. Yeah, no one knows that I'm Superman right now. You know, it felt so good. I di I didn't feel like an imposter. I had zero self-doubt. I was superman, you know, no one knew. But then, you know, the lu the lunch bell rang and, and everyone's running around and we're out in the, in the field and yard. And like I said, uh, it was summer and it was hot and I got real hot little 4-year-old run around. My face was probably as bright red as the cape that was underneath my, my suit, right. And, uh, eventually got to the point where the teacher kind of came up to me and was like, Michael, are you okay? And I was like, yeah, you know, not feeling so super anymore. Uh, apparently she called my mom and my mom came and, and, and she, she, uh, put me in the car and started driving me home, uh, early, got outta school early and she's like, they figured I just was not feeling well. You know, I was sick or something. And then she looked in the rear view mirror and she said, Michael, what's that under your, under your shirt? I had unbuttoned one of the buttons just 'cause it was hot and I was just like, you know, kind of tearing at it. She goes, are you wearing your Superman outfit? And I said, yeah. And she, you know, she did her thing, started laughing and probably like really laughing. Really. Uh, but I just remember the entire experience, feeling so confident and so like, yeah, I've got this. I owned it. Right? And I was okay with being uncomfortable, feeling like I had the superpowers. Now where's the story going? There's no direct connection. I just wanted to share with you a funny story 'cause it came up during Father's Day. But, uh, the reality is though, that I want you to have that confidence even to the point if it's actually a uniform that you put on underneath your outfit before you go out for the day. I want you to step into your superpower, uniform, whatever that looks like. And as funny and as kind of like dorky as maybe that kind of sounds, the reality is that, you know, you could absolutely. Um, do that mentally, like, step into your uniform, you know, into your, into your Superman uniform or superwoman uniform. Um, I just wanted you to know that there are ways of like kind of reframing your, your outlook. Um, my, uh, Luke says, Mike is still Superman. Oh, thanks. Thanks. No, no Cape today guys, just, just a t-shirt. But I do have a Superman t-shirt. I do. I should have worn it. That would've been bombed if I had worn that day. I could like stand up and show you guys the logo. Man, I wish I had done that. That would've been so good. That'll get that in the re-edit guys and the replay. You'll see me wear a Superman shirt. All right. Uh, let's move on. I've embarrassed myself enough. All right, so here's the thing. I want you to ask, what is the primary differentiator between those that struggle with imposter syndrome and those that don't? Here, there's a real question. I want some engagement here. What is the primary differentiator between those that struggle with imposter syndrome and those that don't? Self-confidence. All right. Confidence. That's the differentiator, right? The differentiator between those that struggle with imposter syndrome and those that don't. I didn't say those that don't feel it. I said those that struggle with it, what's the difference? Confidence and confidence actually derives from the Latin word confidentiality, which is from the word con or with, and then CIA trust or reliance. So when you combine trust and reliance, you have the confidence, right? So what does that mean? You have to trust yourself to feel confident. You have to trust yourself to feel confident. So how do we trust ourselves? Right? That's a big one. Like we could unpack that a little bit. Do you trust yourself? Interesting. Why or why not? You might wanna unpack that one. One of the ways to boost self-confidence is to learn the science and probability of you even existing in the first place. This is where we kind of go out into like geek out mode, guys, I'll be honest, because I'm all about, uh, you know, quantum physics and, and, um, science and, and, um, all things space related. We won't go there today, I promise, but here's the thing. If you consider all the variables that have come together from the beginning of time, every interaction, every decision made by your ancestor every minute for thousands and thousands and thousands of years has led you to being right here, right now. And any one of those things being slightly different means you don't even exist. Pretty interesting. I mean really like you, you consider butterfly. Like there's all kinds of different really cool things. You could go down on this, on this road. It's really, really amazing. And Luke, you nailed it. You are a miracle. Like you literally are a walking miracle. All right, so having confidence, self confidence, trusting yourself, where does that come from? Start with some science. You know, if you just wanna step out of like emotional, feel good zone for a little bit, just go to some hard facts in science and start considering the fact that it, you know, one out of 250 million sperm were, made you, uh, able to be existent with me today. Right? Like the, the chances that the astronomical chances of you not being here are far greater. Than you possibly being here today. All right? So just take some science with you and, and have that at your back a little bit. You are uniquely created with talents and skills, and you are God's highest form of creation, all right? You absolutely have the power to do whatever you want within context of the skills you were given. God will never plant a desire in your heart that you don't have the capacity to bring to fruition. That doesn't mean you remember going back to mission, like we said earlier, that doesn't necessarily mean you are the one, but if we separate wishes and hopes to dreams, you will never be given those types of dreams, those deep implanted desires without the capacity to see those through. But it might not be that you are necessarily the one to do it and get the fame of it. You have to separate the mission from the ego. But if it is a deeply embedded desire that came from somewhere, and you need to pay attention to those because a lot of those will not go away. They're like consistently keep showing up in different ways at at different times in your mind. Really, really important thing to understand, one of the best ways to identify your purpose is to look at ways to leverage those innate skills and talents that you have and give them to the world. That is why they are app called gifts. All right. You being here, I know this, this is kind of counter to a lot of our, um, modern day society that, that we live in. But you being here is not for your enjoyment and fulfillment. Not completely. It's part of it, but it's not the only reason. And when you can actually take the skills and, and, and talents that you have, the interest, the passions, the background, the experience, all these things, combine 'em together and serve others. Like we said earlier, service many leads to greatness. Another way to look back, uh, is, or another way to do this, is to look back at the hardest times in your life. What would you do with the pain that you went through? What would you do with the pain that you went through? Don't waste your pain. Use it to help others. Life doesn't happen to you. It happens for you. The fact that you are here with us today, you survived these tumultuous experiences in your past, would suggest the fact that probably someone else has gone through that before too, or will be coming up soon. How much better to use your pain or the benefit of others? There is no testimony without the test. So use your past experiences to help others. All right, so as we wrap guys, the world doesn't need a su another Superman or another superwoman. It needs a super, you, you are uniquely abil, you know, uh, set with a range of skills, a range of talents, a range of experiences. And the world just needs a super you, not another Superman or superwoman.