#129 - "Why You Can’t Stay Focused (It’s Not Your Fault)" 

We should all want to be antifragile, but a pendulum is antifragile by default, so fighting them just makes them stronger. Running from them traps you in cycles. You don't want to be in a position where you're constantly outrunning something, constantly outrunning the past. What actually happens when you begin to outrun things is you get really good at running, and then you can get really skilled at running, and you're good enough to outrun everything in your past, and then you're a professional runner.

You get the end of your life. You're like, what did you build? Nothing. But I avoided death. I cheated death so many times. We're not gonna cheat this one. That's not the mission that you have. Our calling is not to just cheat death. What if you could build a business in the modern world as big or as small as you want without having to compromise the things that were the most important to you in the very beginning?

This is the Wealthy Consultant Talks podcast with Taylor Welch and Mike Walker as they share with you today, their learning lessons from stories in their experiences over the past 10. To 15 years and share with you right here, right now.  Let's get into it. People assume all the time that their thoughts are their own.

In many cases though, how many of you have walked into a room and you've started thinking something and you're not really sure where the thought came from? How many of you have seen something on the news and you started thinking something and an hour later you're, you're thinking about something that you have no idea.

That's not normal for you to think about. This is, uh, this has been studied a lot. It is a well-documented phenomenon and it's partially kind of ties into something called emotional contagion, where individuals will begin to mimic or adopt the emotions of those around 'em. Now, what is an emotion? Emotion is just a.

Chemical cocktail type of thing that hits the brain. However, when we look at the regulator of those neurochemicals, a lot of the regulators are thoughts that have to do with things that happen in our, in our environment. So our emotional states are hijacked all the time. It's pretty rare for somebody to have complete autonomy and sovereignty over how they feel.

This is a rare thing.  We all like to think that we have sovereignty, but very few of us actually have, uh, emotional sovereignty because our emotions are coming from everything around us. This is how God made the body. It's not a big deal. It's not a bad thing. This is how our brains were programmed. So when I'm saying that you don't have sovereignty, I'm not saying you're screwed.

I'm saying that you have to understand where they're coming from or else we'll get trapped in these things called pendulums. We also have epigenetics that contribute to this. So epigenetics is a fascinating, uh, wing of research in that there are things that you think.  That are the exact same things that your grandmother thought or your parents thought, or that even older, your great-great-great grandfather thought, and we're all affected by our own epigenetics, but our, our epigenetics tend to respond to situations so that somebody else in your life  can cause you. 

To feel a certain way. And if there's damage involved in, in that situation, then your epigenetics will actually begin to kind of  write their own story for your kids.  So your circle's really important and you know this, but very few people understand the depth of importance. It's an existential type of of thing.

Who you rock with and who you roll with impacts your. Generational line in many cases, so we don't have to, we're not gonna spend a ton of time on this, but I wanna ask you a question because we, we we'll understand pendulums this way. Have you ever set a big goal that you were very excited about Greg Sugarman, and then all the worlds seem to conspire against you at the same time to keep you from achieving that goal? 

Sure. That's happened.  It happens to me all the time. This story of our ever living lives. We are super stoked about something. It's December 30th. We're like, I'm gonna set these big goals. I'm gonna crush 2025. Then the first 10 days of January, it's like they exist to talk you out of the goals that you set on December 30th.

I  was like, well, this is, it's coincidence if it happens once, but  I'm 36 and this has happened a lot, so it can't be coincidence anymore. It has to be patterns, some pattern, recognizing this must be a thing. Conversely, let's flip it around. Let's say that you finally get to this point where you're like, forget this man. 

I'm done with this goal. This is a stupid goal. I don't even care about it anymore. And then the next week you accomplish the goal, like accidentally.  You decide you don't care about a relationship anymore, and then all of a sudden that relationship just  comes chasing you back  so many times.  Yeah. It's like you're dating somebody.

You really, really need it to work out. No, it doesn't work out. This woman's crazy. I don't care anymore. Then all of a sudden she's not crazy. It's like, what in the world is happening?  What's happening here in the, in the world of energy, pendulums are the highways. Not all energy is, is good energy. And so we have to understand what this means if we're gonna figure out where we are stuck in the middle of it.

So let's define a pendulum as a.  As a cluster of energies, both positive and negative, that surround the goal or a desire or a target. And these pendulums are not evil. They're not good, they're not bad. They're neither. They're just, they're just there. They're, but they're hungry and so everywhere. If you were able to peel back the layers and look into the realm of the spirit or the quantum worlds where there's energy all around you, what you would notice is that  wherever you have a lot of desire. 

Wherever you have a lot of fear, wherever you have a lot of, uh, anxiety, what, where there's an intensity of an emotion, you would see a,  a clustering around that place. And we don't have to go super deep into the spirit world to understand this, but most of the places that we get trapped as people are the places that are very important to us  and we create. 

These pendulums because they're super important to us. Now, if you're really, really afraid of something, is that important to you?  Absolutely. Or else you wouldn't be afraid of it. Yeah, you wouldn't be afraid of it. And the things I'm afraid of, Mike's not really afraid of because they're not as important to him.

And the things that Mike's afraid of, I'm not as afraid of 'cause they're not as important to me. Now we might have crossover because we're both dads and we both have families, and so we're both gonna have a healthy. You know, uh, gratitude and at times fear that we're gonna be, you know, my daughter is growing up  and so I'm, I'm walking behind Mike's footsteps and I need him to write a book on how to send your daughter to college  because I'm afraid of it.

I feel like I could right now.  So he knows. I mean, I'm like, bro, I'm afraid of that. But Mike called me last week and I'm literally having to get Kate.  Off of a play set because Mike heard this, she's beating her brother up. And I'm like, what is wrong with you guys? The background noise guys was hilarious.

It was so good. Mike was just like, man, you're making me sad, because he remembers those days.  And so we have shared pendulums because we're both dads and we have a lot in common, but our pendulums are our own and everything around us. Is tuned to our pendulums. So algorithms are tuned to this. Political movements, uh, the populous movement that kind of is going on in the United States.

It's a giant pendulum, family drama, workplace hierarchy. These are all pendulums and they survive because they feed off of the energy you're investing into them. The moment you react to something.  Then you are actually feeding a, a pendulum. And in the world of the spirit, these things feed, feed entities that you probably don't want to feed.

In the world of quantum energies and, and entanglement, they would just feed what's called resistance. And so this harvesting effect, what they're doing, they're taking energy, they're feeding off of it, and then printing that over your reality to perpetuate a cycle or to trap you in a new pendulum. This is making any sense so far.

Are you guys still with me or is too deep?  No, that's good stuff, dude. Okay.  The reason that I, that I talk about epigenetics a lot is because I was born with a very particular set of blueprints from my mom and my dad, and they got their blueprints from their mom and their dad, and their mom and dad got their blueprints from their mom and their dad, and their great-grandparents got their blueprints from their mom and so on and so forth, and so on and so forth.

So you would be amazed at how many of our blueprints have been jacked with.  They'd have nothing to do with us. So the way that we feel is coming from the way our parents felt. If our parents had a conversation that they were having with themselves  when they were in college,  you would be crazy. I. To, uh, deny that you're having the same conversations when you're in college because these things perpetuate through the generations.

They perpetuate through the bloodlines. This something creates something when it's, when it's a negative pendulum, it calls, it creates what's called a a, a amygdala hijack. So an amygdala hijacked amygdala is a part of your brain that sort of re response through. Um.  Prepping a fight or flight response. So it's like the fear center of the brain and it, it's, we feel fear through the amygdala primarily. 

And it's trying, the amygdala's not trying to hurt us. It's trying to keep us alive. This is why it gets really muddy and confusing. I remember when I got free from, uh, the spirit of fear, I'll say it that way, because it wasn't just me being afraid of something like a train.  It's good to be afraid of a train if it's, if you're strapped to the tracks, like you should be afraid of that.

But the spirit of beer in that everything around me was causing me to be afraid. I remember when I got free from this, and the biggest lesson that I learned is that I struggled for many years to get rid of it because I felt biologically that it was keeping me safe.  It was just, it was a trick. It was, it was there because I felt like I needed it for me to survive.

And we did this with everything, but that's the amygdala is doing the amygdala is the thing that's causing this could hurt you. You need this friends. To roll through this time. 'cause if you don't have this friends, then you could die. And we get trapped in these pendulums because we don't understand the depth of them or where they're coming from.

So during this hijacked state, when you are in a a, a amygdala hijack state, you have to realize you're no longer making decisions. It's not you,  it's not Mike making decisions. If anybody was at the Sacred Timelines event, we'll do another workshop, a Sacred Timelines workshop, probably in February of next year.

Uh, we have two belief architectures coming up before then,  but sacred timeline is one of the things we did is we went into this place of like, where is the inner ver child version of yourself? That never went away. I.  And so I have someone really close to me and we'll have conversations and it's almost like I can tell that something will happen and they will regress back to when something happened as a kid.

And it's no longer them that I'm talking to. It's the 11-year-old them that I'm talking to. Yeah. This is why grown ass adults can sometimes act like four year olds. Mm-hmm. It's not really their faults. They're not deciding to be a 4-year-old. They just have now been hijacked and they've regressed back to a season of their life when they had no control, no one was there to save them, no one was there to protect them, and they could have died.

Now, whether they could have died physically or not, doesn't matter. This is all the realm of perception. So like you're not in control in this moment. It's not like, Hey, you lost a client. You're not gonna physically die. Your brain doesn't care. It's rejecting that. It's like, no, no, no. The last time I felt this, I felt like I was gonna die.

So the perception is.  I have to defend myself and protect myself, and this is a problem because anytime you find yourself trapped in a pendulum  where your circuitry is training you to fight or flight, it will. It will corrupt our ability to control our responses.  Uh, am I saying that it's not your fault, how you respond?

Sort of, but it's your responsibility nonetheless. So we can't just be like, well, I learned on a call that it's not my fault, so I'm just gonna yell. That's what said.  No, no, no, no, no. Like it's still your responsibility even though it's maybe not your fault, but understanding is what gives us the lens to be able to start playing with this stuff whenever we try to fight.

A pendulum, it makes them stronger because what do you have to invest into something if you're gonna fight it?  Energy. 

Yeah, attention would be, would be actually the correct answer. But, so Jennifer Blim is correct.  Attention energy.  Jennifer's like on a, she's too trained for this. Yes. Attention is the right thing. They haven't been through belief, architecture, energy. You've gotta invest attention or energy into something.

And what does a pendulum feed off of?  So the thing you're fighting is actually getting stronger as you fight it. Mm-hmm.  So you can't fight it one to one.  This is the definition of antifragility. Pendulums are the most antifragile things on the planet. If you're antifragile, the things that show up to try to hurt you, make you stronger. 

We should all want to be antifragile, but a pendulum is antifragile by. Default. So fighting them just makes them stronger. Running from them traps you in cycles. You don't want to be in a position where you're constantly outrunning something, constantly outrunning the past. What, what actually happens when you begin to outrun things is you get really good at running  and then you can get really, really skilled at running, and you're good enough to outrun everything in your past, and then you're a professional runner. 

You get the end of your life, you're like, what did you build? Nothing. But I avoided death. I cheated death so many times, so we're not gonna cheat this one. That's not the mission that you have. Our calling is not to just cheat death  a million times until the end, boom.  It's not, it's not the goal.  The goal is to become clean. 

Where we have sovereignty and autonomy around how we're making decisions and how we're responding. So in this week's challenge, what we are going to do is we are going to practice something called neutral thinking.  Neutral thinking, neutralizes, pendulums, ah, it's a nice little play on words. You proud of me for that? 

Well done, sir. That credit, gimme that credit. That's my pendulum. Not really. I'm just kidding. Right. We'll, we'll practice neutral thinking, which I'm gonna go into here in a second, and then we'll finish with learning how to handle crisis situations. Pressure, chaos, because any promotion you have will be proceeded by chaos or crisis. 

There is no promotion without some sort of chaos or crisis. And yet when we mishandle chaos or crisis, we end up perpetuating an old pendulum that we don't wanna get into. Sound good? Love it. You wanna keep going? Let's go dude.  Alright.  Uh, Trevor, Trevor Moad was a, was a world's renowned mental conditioning coach.

Has anybody heard of a guy named Nick Saban?  Nick Saban, a goat man. Nick Saban was, um, he coached the LSU Tigers. He coached Alabama. He,  he is a traitor. He left Louisiana and went to Alabama  'cause he is a traitor. And my wife is from Alabama. I'm from Louisiana. We don't get along on this. We don't like to talk about it.

Nick Saban was one of the greatest coaches in college football history. Trevor Mo had trained him.  Um, Russell Wilson. Anybody know Russell Wilson?  Trevor Trevor trained him,  uh, Kirby Smart, Jimbo Fisher, and then Trevor was a, was a far freak of nature when it came to how to utilize neutral thinking, especially in high stakes situations.

He just says this neutral thinking is a high performance strategy that emphasizes judgment free thinking, especially in crisis and  pressure situations. He said neutral thinking is staying in the moment, giving each moment its own history.  And reacting to events as they unfolds. Not pre reacting, but as they unfold, it takes away emotion and replaces it with behaviors.

Instead of asking, how do I feel, you begin to ask yourself, what do I do?  This is an a, a deviation from the whole, like, be, do, have thing, be do, have doesn't really a, a appropriately. Deal with feelings  like it, it doesn't recognize the way you feel as a legitimate ingredient in the equation. I do. I think that feelings are tremendously important.

I don't think that they should be the rudder on your ship. You shouldn't give, outsource all your decisions to feelings, but when you are in a place of correct identity, do you know what will always happen? You always feel in alignment with that identity.  So it's a heuristic for me. If I'm not feeling the right way, then there must be a problem with the identity I'm, I'm bringing into this situation. 

If I'm not feeling correct, then it's an in, it's an integral signal that I might not be behaving in a way that's gonna align with my true identity. So we have to go to the realm of identity if we're gonna get this pendulum thing under control.  Um.  Let's skip to the end so we don't run outta time, no matter how well we master this concept.

And I'm gonna take you through how we handle this and how we master this concept. We will still have chaos in the middle, so lemme just gi gimme permission to go on a tangent for a second and then tie us back in at the end with exercises that'll, that'll kind of help us put it together.  Um, if you're in a, in a position where you're trying to grow. 

You can look at your life and say, I have no pendulums anywhere. Everything's good, everything's great. And then as soon as you encounter chaos, all of a sudden you have a pendulum. If you don't recognize it,  then you'll begin to backtrack into a place of dysfunction. I.  And if you don't catch how you're feeling, then you'll get tied down into that place of dysfunction.

So let's talk about chaos and crisis for just a minute. There are three things that we need to, to perform well under pressure to be the the athlete. Who is in the high stakes environment and perform well. The first thing is we need skills. That's obviously true. We need skills because if you've never shot a basketball before and you're put into the final 10 seconds of the fourth quarter championship game, you're probably not going to do it unless you get lucky  and luck's not a great strategy.

We need luck, but we don't want to depend on luck. Does the difference make sense?  Yep.  I'll take luck every day of the week. Give it all to me. It's not like I reject luck, it's just I don't depend on it. It's not my, my central strategy. So we need skills. Ideally we need skills that have been developed separately from the pressure. 

We're gonna talk about that in a second. Aggression. Here's the second thing, not aggression to to just be aggressive, but. As a substitute for the typical defensive, evasive, protective attitude that shows up when someone is beset by chaos. You've all experienced this where something bad happens to you and you immediately wanna hide. 

I've been there a million times  and what we need to, to, to make it through chaos and through crisis is not a hiding attitude. It's an aggressive, I'm gonna move forward because this is my destiny attitude. And the more chaos you throw on top of me, the stronger I'm going to become, the better my reputation will be, the clearer my vision will be.

And so there's aggression that we need to move forward. And then the third thing is perspective. Not every crisis situation is truly a crisis. And you know this, if you have kids, they're experiencing a crisis, and it's like, what happened? Oh my gosh, you're sobbing on the floor. What happened?  I couldn't find the applesauce.

Yeah.  Okay. Well that's,  that's not a, that's not the crisis that you think it is. You know, we gotta reframe this a little bit.  And a molehill can turn into a mountain really quick when you give it too much credit. Mm-hmm. Some of you are not even really facing a existential crisis pressure situation.

You're creating it because you're obsessed with all of the resistance in your life.  You just won't stop thinking about it. And so it's getting bigger and bigger and bigger as you what? Feed it with energy and feed it with attention.  Sometimes the best thing for me to do is to look at a situation that that blindsided me that I am really unhappy about and just go, huh, makes sense. 

Move on.  Why would it make sense? Because I'm built for this. I'm going somewhere bigger than this. You know, a a a mountain looks really big until you're in space and it doesn't look very big anymore. You've gotta get a different perspective. Your altitude's gotta change. You've gotta put new lenses on.

And if we, if we're only staring up in a mountain obsessed with how big the mountain is, it's going to become bigger and bigger and bigger based on our perspective. That reinforces. That thing.  So interesting story. We'll talk about skills for a second. Dr. Tolman, who's a psychologist and founder of the concept known as latent learning, write this down.

Latent learning 'cause we're gonna need to talk about it.  Latent learning. He said that both animals and men form brain maps or cognitive maps of the environment when they are learning something. If there is too much pressure, these maps become very narrow.  If the pressure is lowered, they become broad. In general.

Dr. Tolman found, for example, that if a rat is permitted to learn and practice under non-crisis conditions, it will perform better later when there's an actual crisis. Listen to this from, read this excerpt.  If rats were permitted to roam about at will and explore a maze when they were well fed with plenty to drink, they did not appear to learn anything, however.

If the same rats were placed in the maze while hungry at a later time, they showed that they had learned a good deal by quickly and efficiently going to the goal.  They did the same experiment, and we're not gonna talk about it in this worksheet where they would put rats straight into the maze the first time when they were starving.

I.  They took like four times longer to find the end of the maze than the rats that were trained to just kind of cool, chill, go through it. We're not learning just the skill when we're learning something under without pressure. We're learning how to advance.  So when you're learning copywriting or something, it's not just learning copywriting that you're doing.

You're learning how to. Objectively look at copywriting. When you wanna learn how to sell, you're not just learning sales, you're learning how to exist in a sales environment. When you build a business and you're trying to get to a $10 million ebitda, you're not just learning how to get to the $10 million ebitda.

You're learning how to progress through the middle of chaos.  By learning the right levers to pull and the right buttons to push when there is chaos. This comes back down to the, the, uh, etymology of the word crisis and chaos. So listen to this. The word crisis comes from a Greek word that means decisiveness or point of decision.

A crisis is a fork on the road. One fork holds promise and improvement, the other does not. The word pressure comes from the Greek word. Ah, chaos. Mm-hmm.  Meaning a gaping void or pre structure? Pre structure is interesting. Pre structure.  Pre structure is the, is the unshaded realm of potential from which a new creation must emerge.

It means that there's kind of just a bunch of ingredients that are not put together  the right way. So when you're in a season of chaos, what it really means is that you're in a season where there's a lot of ingredients, but no structure imposed upon it.  You can do whatever you want. This is why most opportunity in a person's life comes from the uncertain realm when there is pressure enforced upon it.

Love that. This is why you cannot, you cannot get to the top of the mountain without having a healthy dose of pressure, because if you don't have any pressure, you're not gonna be able to create structure.  It's the same as turbulence. Take a turbulence when an airplane's taken off. If there's no wind resistance, there's no flights.

We have to have it. We have to have the resistance because if we don't have the resistance, we can't take off. If we don't have the pressure, we can't create structure.  Make sense? Love that, bro. Okay, so what determines.  The structure that is built after a period of chaos intention, oops, typo. We'll fix that intention more.

More specifically the intensity of our intention. When you're committed beyond the point of no return to an outcome, chaos will be forced to convert into structure  and progress. Let's talk really briefly about the intensity of intention for a second.  Okay.  I meet a lot of people who have good intentions. 

What do they say? The road to hell is paved with good intentions. That's not what I'm talking about.  What I'm talking about is intention and expectation. Where which are I reversibly Linked together. What you intend will create what you expect.  Now, if we are afraid of something,  it means that we are expecting a scenario that it does not line with our best vision.

I.  How can you be afraid of something  without expecting it in some regards to happen? 

It's not possible. Mm-hmm.  The very thing that powers what we are afraid of is the expectation that that thing will come to pass. And if you take the expectation and completely delete it from a person's life. The fear will be deleted Also, 

should we list the things that have to go well for us to wake up in the morning 

if the,  if the carbon dioxide, oxygen concentration of the room shifts too much, we don't wake up.  If.  If the sun doesn't stay in place  even for three or four seconds, we don't wake up.  There are millions of things that have to work perfectly for us to wake up in the morning, and yet we are not afraid of them.

How many of us have had panic attacks going to bed? Because we don't know if we're going to wake up in the morning because what if,  what if the molecular structure of air changes while we're asleep and we never wake up again?  It's just not expected.  We don't expect that, and therefore we don't fear it. 

Everything we fear is a giant pendulum that creates an over expectation of the thing and therefore we're afraid of it. And by being afraid of it, we actually create it.  We create it by our intentions because pressure responds to intention with structure. And if our intention, expectation is that this, this situation is going to kill us, it will respond with the structure that tries to kill us. 

Because our expectations are going into the realm of chaos and they're organizing energy in a way that gives us the expectation. 

We need more examples or are we good? We, you trust me on this? Yeah. No, I think, I think you made your point. Okay.  We have to, we have to really sit with this  because if you're honest, and I'll just be the first one to admit this.  The more I study  this type of material, like the more I study, like, okay, first of all, like our ancestors, you ever get the idea, like the weird hunch that our ancestors knew way more about this stuff than we did? 

Yeah. Like the very words themselves are like telling us what the word means. We're like, what? How did we not know this? Mm-hmm. They knew way more than we do.  We don't have time to get into the history of why that is, but they knew, and the technology of history was not, uh, internet. It was spiritual technology, which is why words themselves through, through the e etymology, are coded with the technology in the word  boom. 

They understood the spiritual technology of how the brain creates reality. They understood the spiritual technology of how intention, expecta expectation enforced a sort of sort of structure over our worldview and over the things that happened to us. This stuff was guarded, that people have killed people because they figured this out, and we thank God we're in a different era where information is a little bit more democratized,  but. 

The Greeks understood that crisis was a gift. They understood that chaos was required for structure to exist, and then we live taken to to, to modern era. And we are reeling because we don't know what chaos means. We don't know what crisis means, and we're allowing our ourselves to be hijacked.  And people didn't do this back in the day, so they knew more than we did about this stuff.

And so the more I study about this, the more I realize that.  Most everything in my life that I regret, that I had to deal with most of the problems in my life that I've been, you know, frustrated that I had to, to go through most of them. Like a healthy 90 plus percentile of them were created by me.  Hmm. 

And I just didn't know it. I lacked the understanding,  and so I lived in fear. I allowed anxiety to come in. I never once looked at my thoughts and said, Hmm, maybe my thoughts are causing this to happen.  I, I stay reactive when it comes down to, the intentions are great, but the intensity of an intention is, is different.

You have a spectrum of this intensity.  I can go all the way up where you are convinced, man, nothing is going to convince me that this is not gonna happen in my life. And the timelines tend to map to the intensity.  This is what I've come to the conclusion of. When, when, when we have something that we expect to happen and we are like 10 out of 10, that is going to happen.

The timelines tend to compress  because there's nowhere else for energy to go. Yeah, it's focused.  And what it really comes down to is pendulums delay us. They drag us into delays, and when there's nowhere else for our energy to go, the pendulums that would normally delay us starve to death,  there's no, it's very scientific.

Like, it's not like, oh my gosh, there's some weird thing with like the, the, you know, the universe or whatever. No, no, no. Whatever. Some people think that, I think the universe is. Has doesn't have Cynthia's, I don't think the universe knows its name, so I'm not gonna pray to that. It doesn't know who it is.

However, the pendulums in themselves can starve, and when the delays go away, what happens? Time speeds up. So we progress. I. Faster and further, and this has everything to do with the intensity of expectation. So here's the homework. Here's the homework. Identify the top two outcomes you're committed to in the season of your life.

Make sure that these are clear and well articulated, and make sure that they're not just outcome based. I don't want to point you guys in a direction where you're like, here's my outcome. Make a billion dollars. Well.  Your brain doesn't really care that much about a billion dollars. It's not really going to respond the right way.

And you know, my, it will work, it will just, it will also trap you. So if it, I've, I've coached people through,  they just really want a Lamborghini, and so they just visualize on it every day. And then they get the Lamborghini and guess what? They don't even like the Lamborghini. Yeah. Like they, they got it.

It works, but then they don't even like it.  It's because they're, they're setting a, a, a non-tangible, non identity based type of outcomes. So I want, I want you to make sure these outcomes are identity based. They're not outcome based.  And then number two, I want you just to describe how these identities or attitudes can create the desired outcome in the midst of resistance.

So there you go. You're allowed to have some sort of outcome in there, but the outcome has to flow through the gate of your identity.  Or else you'll find yourself getting outcomes through compromising your identity, which will make you unhappy. And if you're unhappy, what do you do? You just reset the loop back to the very beginning.

O so how? How can the identity that you are committed to create good outcomes, even if the circumstances are not currently favorable? So one of my things that I've been really thinking about and focusing on is the places that I want to go. I'll, I'll tell you this right now.  The places that I will go before I die  are going to open me up to  the negative opinions of a lot of people. 

I'm giving you an example for a second.  You can see,  you can see online, just go look at YouTube and look at some of my posts.  Like, reputation's fine, but.  There are people who really don't, don't like what I have to say. And so what kind of outcome  do I want to have? Well, I want to be in this position where I'm, I'm investing at the schools into, uh, the, the nutrient density of the education system.

And, and I'm involved in, in a bit of the political scene with education. I'm involved in all of this stuff, but the identity requires for me to get there as one who is quite impenetrable to the opinions of the naysayers.  So my identity kind of used the haters as positive reinforcement that I'm on the right track. 

And so what would my identity  respond with to somebody hating me  respect, but disdain,  disdainful, respect,  and, and my identity could be able to read that and look at that and be like, look, this person doesn't know what they don't know. Mm-hmm. And it doesn't affect me. 

Yeah, totally, man. Now all your identities are the, you're gonna have to work on them, so they're just gonna have to, you're gonna have to like spend your time  if you haven't ever done this before. It's just like the visualization thing. It's just like really, you just have no compass for it. You have to sit and you have to work.

Sorry. It's just work. You have to sit and work to do your job. Like you just have to do it, and then you'll come up with it, you'll change it. Ah, that doesn't really make sense. Let me tweak this here. And eventually you get to this place where you're like, ah, that makes sense. That's, that's the identity that I wanna have. 

That's the identity you wanna have.  You might have an identity where it's like when somebody shows up and they're in need. I always want to be the person who meets that need. 

Well, I don't really have money. Well, you don't really need the money. You don't need money to be a a generous person. You don't need money to be a kind person. Meeting the need doesn't mean paying off their mortgage. Sometimes meeting a need can  can mean that you see somebody at the store and you smile and encourage them, and you tell 'em that you don't know what they're going through.

But they're an amazing person and you can tell that by the way that they respond.  All of a sudden you've met a need. It has nothing to do with money. So we work these identities. This is very similar to the values thing we did in the In the Quantum Challenge, but we work these identities so that we become. 

Integrated and whenever something happens in our immediate vicinity, we don't respond to them. We truck through them based on how our identity would respond to it.