Why Anxiety Isn’t Your Problem And What To Do Instead

So a lot of people were like, how do I deal with my anxiety? What's amazing what will happen if you do 1 24 hour sprint where everything that seems difficult, you just do it, you all of a sudden don't have time to feel anxiety. Mm-hmm. It's not that it's not there, it's just that you physically don't have any time for it.

Anxiety requires time. The goal is not just to get busier all the time, but it's like if you busy yourself doing things that you know are the right things to do, you're running into things and your anxiety is still be chirping away. You just won't have time to listen to it. When your self image is adequate and it's something that you can be proud of, you feel self confidence.

So the self is. Theme is a byproduct of you living in a way that aligns with the image that you want to carry. What if you could build a business in the modern world as big or as small as you want without having to compromise the things that were the most important to you in the very beginning? This is the Wealthy Consultant Talks podcast with Taylor Welch and Mike Walker as they share with you today, their learning lessons from stories in their experiences over the past 10.

To 15 years and share with you right here, right now. Let's get into it. Alright, let's talk real fast about self-image.  Self-image. We have an event coming up for Novos in, um, I believe that this will probably be February. It's called Self-Concept and  Identity, Self-Concept and Identity Self-Image. This is one of my favorite things to talk about.

As many of you know, some of you don't know. I'm testing out of my BS in psych right now. It's hilarious, but it's also awesome. Um, I wanna get a master's in either bioenergetics or um, uh, neuroscience. I don't know which one yet. We're gonna go with whatever, wherever the wind goes. But what's fascinating is that.

Uh, when you study self-esteem and self-concepts, this research is like 50, 60 years old, so like we've known what self-esteem is for a very long time. We've known how to fix people's self-esteem for a very long time. We've known how to cure  clinical depression for a very long. Time without stimulus, without medication.

We've known how to do this stuff for a while, and um, for better or for worse, I'm gonna let you be the judge of that. Um, there is a lot of money in selling fast acting coverup type of drugs for people. And so what happens is the research sort of has been somewhat suppressed and throttled, not because it's blacklisted, but because it doesn't make us money.

Um, it doesn't make.  I, I can't scale a business  off of just teaching someone how to wake up early and eat a good breakfast. That's a very difficult thing for me to, to do, you know, and you understand that like, I, I, that's not what people want. I'd have to spend a ridiculous amount of money in ads just to get you to buy into it.

But if  I can give you medication.  That can trick your brain into thinking that you woke up early and ate a good breakfast. Oh man. Now we're in like multi-billionaire type  territory and it's not always this way, but this is most of the way that it is. And so, uh, part of the reason I'm so passionate about what we're doing is because, uh, there are, there are. 

Heuristics that can go into play. And typically if you learn the heuristics, you learn how to control the brain. Lemme give you an example of one of the heuristics. Uh, one of my values is I do difficult things until they become easy. You guys have heard me talk about this before. A heuristic would say the more difficult it is to do, the more fulfilling it's likely going to be.

On the other side of that,  that would be a heuristic.  Is true in almost every sense of the word. Has anybody on the call ever done a dopamine fast,  like a real one? 

I'm getting a delay here. I know I have, man. I just came from one. I was out in the desert. Unless you consider, like, does MOOC motocross count as dopamine though? Doesn't count. No. That would be more like, uh, uh, epinephrine flooding the brain. No. Um, a, a real dopamine fast. Yeah, that would qualify. So you're talking no music.

Um, no connection. Very, very little Audit, auditory processing. Um.  If you wanna rarely go hardcore, you do no food. So I just did one of these, um, yesterday. No coffee, no music, no screens, no technology, no internet, no food, uh, no nicotine, like nothing happy. If it was happy, don't do it. Um, the only thing I could do is read, and so I ended up reading like for five hours.

It was like reading and when I woke up this morning.  I like, had a cup of coffee. I was like, oh my God. Like this is like, this is  amazing. And then like music came on our Sonos speakers and I was like, how beautiful is life? And this is crazy. You're just losing your mind.  Well, if you can learn to get into a position where you are doing the difficult work,  then or your whole life becomes more beneficial.

How many of you seen that meme? It's like the,  the Road to Heaven. Feels like hell and the road to hell feels like heaven. You've got these two people and one of them's like, you know, fat and, uh, smiling. So you get into this place where, where when you are doing life the right way, you don't always feel good, but you know that nothing's wrong. 

When you're doing life in a shortcut type of way,  you feel good, but you know that everything's wrong.  So there's like a massive misalignment around how am I living right now? How am I getting to the things that I want to get to? And when you study old research around self-concept and self-identity, you see this, this parallel to how the brain rec recognizes stimuli, stimuli. 

And how the, the value system  judges us in whether we are acceptable or not. So read this quote for you real fast. When this, when the self-image is intact and secure, you feel good, but at a deep level.  So like you don't exactly feel good at the shallow level. If you have a self-esteem that says I am, I take care of my body.

I am physically fit and active, I eat good foods. Well, it doesn't always feel good to be in the gym on the last set. It doesn't feel good when, oh, you want is a pizza and you're eating kale.  And  lettuce, you might as well just like be an herbivore, like a horse. She's like, this is not what I want. But you feel good at the base level, which is this the level of the alignment of the soul, the mind.

Heart will and emotions, you know that that level is feeling secure. When this self-concepts or self-image is threatened, you feel anxious and insecure. So a lot of people were like, how do I deal with my anxiety? What's amazing what will happen if you like, if you do 1 24 hour sprint where everything that seems difficult, you just do it, you all of a sudden don't have time to feel anxiety. 

Mm-hmm. It is not that it's not there, it's just that you physically don't have any time for it.  Anxiety requires time.  This is the one that's something they don't teach about, about the mind. If if,  if you're feeling anxious, it means you have time to realize that you feel anxious.  And so the goal is not just to get busier all the time, but it's like if you busy yourself doing things that you know are the right things to do, you're running into things and your anxiety is still be chirping away.

You just won't have time to listen to it. When your self image is adequate and it's something that you can be proud of, you feel self-confidence. So the self-esteem is a byproduct of you living in a way that aligns with the image that you want to carry.  We'll break this down. You feel free to be yourself and to express yourself.

You function at your optimum level.  When your self-concept is the object of shame, you attempt to hide it rather than express it. Creative expression is blocked and you become hostile and hard to get along with. So there's this  cataclysm of sorts that happens when somebody is not proud of who they are. 

And you can tell that someone is not proud of who they are because they will begin to do things for no other reason than to secure approval of the crowd. And then in hindsight, guess what?  They're upset with themselves for doing those things, which, what does this create a loop and what is the loop called?

Shame. 'cause we're looking back at things that  reinforce and substantiate this idea that I behaved outside of my alignment window, outside of the way that I was supposed to behave. This is making sense tracking. So  let's, I wanna do a, a really quick brief bit of homework. Here's the, the thing that I want you to, to list down. 

I'm gonna limit you to two things if we get to the end of your life, and there are two things being said about you,  two things only. This is not a lot of surface area,  so we're gonna have to test the brain's capacity to categorize.  This is good for the brain to do, by the way, because  the brain can be, if you can force your brain to categorize things into like principles, a lot of your life becomes easier at the end of your life.

There are two things that are said about you. What two things  do you want to be said about you? And they need to be written in a particular way.  Your name  was.  Enter the value or the virtue.  Make sense? Mm-hmm. So Mike was  ruthlessly committed to lifting other people,  or It can be. Mike  was ruthlessly committed to his own comfort in eating whatever he wanted. 

If he doesn't want, if that's a value for him, then Oreos baby, go have it. Oreos all the way. I haven't had an Oreo in months, dude, months,  friends. I have broken that habit. All right, two things. I want you to write 'em down, then we're gonna talk about 'em. Just take 60 seconds and knock it out and we will be here when you are done. 

Here's the next thing I want you to do. I want you to take 60 seconds. Pick one of them, just one of them. Pick one of them. Don't pick two of them. You won't have time to do it. And, uh, here's how, here's how we get, uh, crazy. The, this is gonna be difficult for some of you and easy for some of you, depending on how much you've practiced this, I want you to take 60 seconds.

I want you to close your eyes, disconnect, and I want you to visualize what you write now or this week. What it would look like for you to fully support that thing that was said about you through your choices this week. Visualize it all the way through 60 seconds. I'll bring you back when you're done. In one word, just one word.

Describe how it felt. Visualizing through that. Whenever we want to get into a place, and this is something I would practice,  I would spend time every day.  Calling back the feeling of peace, calling back, the feeling of alignment, calling back the feeling of gratitude. The way that you do this is that, and notice how these words are working. 

The version or vision of yourself that you are participating in creating is always gonna have a great connotation. Notice, none of our self esteems just went backwards. None of us, nobody on that. I've seen. And if you have, if you do feel like, well, this was awful for you, then you can, we can talk about that.

But you'll never really find somebody stepping into who they were supposed to be and always wanted to be, and then feeling worse as a byproduct. So the stronger we can get the association in our minds to how I behave.  And feeling peaceful, the easier it will be for us to behave that way under duress or under stress, or when there's not enough time or Et cetera, et cetera. It's all mental circuitry that we're connecting up.